Wednesday, June 23, 2010

How To Stop Cravings From Controlling Your Life

During my 9 week journey to wellness, I have to say that one of THE most difficult parts was to deal with my cravings. I came across this article on Selfgrowth.com (one of my favorites sites) and thought it was worthy of sharing. Enjoy~
P.S. I am down 2 1/2 pant sizes and about 30lbs. I feel great! So take that CRAVINGS!!! LOL.
:-)
Raychelle
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Craving (Krey-ving)- noungreat or eager desire; yearning
……….sound familiar???

Almost everyone I know seems to be on a diet. They are changing their eating habits and making a concerted effort to cut out the bad things which were habitual and eat all the healthy things that they have read will make them thinner. This can be torturous, I know from past experience. When you love eating something and then suddenly it’s not allowed it seems unfair and that can turn into a craving. Dieters are focused on what they should or shouldn’t be eating and avoiding those naughty “X” foods. There is a abundance of confusing and seemingly contradictory advice out there too, it can be hard to know what to eat and when to eat it. I propose that the question we should be asking ourselves relating to food before the what, the when and the how ….……is the WHY???

WHY DO WE REALLY EAT??
Have you ever thought WHY you love food “X” so much?? Take a moment and actually consider;
WHY DO YOU EAT?How do you see eating?Why do you eat what you do?What purpose does it serve?

For some reason these questions are actually quite difficult for a lot of people to answer. Eating is something we do several times a day, it’s part of our daily routine and is constantly on our minds at some level and yet very rarely do we consider the actual WHY? behind eating.

ATTITUDES TO EATING
Well if we go back to basics then the reason we eat is to survive. Food on a primeval level gave us the energy we needed to live. That transferred to a modern day context means that food gets us through our day and if we do it right then it keeps us alert, energetic and ready to take on any challenge. Somewhere along the line that attitude changed. Food is now seen as a pleasure giver and something that we can indulge ourselves in. It provides instant gratification and a feel good factor, be it only for a short amount of time. Food has been developed, augmented, processed and heavily marketed to accentuate that image too.

HOW TO STOP THAT CRAVING CYCLE
Here is an alternative view on food that harks back that primeval level and can help revolutionise your attitude to food and change your diet for the better. Consider food as a fuel that is used to build and support your body which houses your very soul and being.You have one chance at life and your body is the vessel which will take you through it. There isn’t the option to just treat it badly, throw it away and buy a new one like you might a set of clothes. If you respect and love yourself then you must treat your body to reflect that attitude by feeding it the essential nutrients it needs to function correctly.

Basically we must change our attitude to eating to one that considers what we put in our body and whether it is going to be beneficial to our health. Be true to this philosophy and your cravings will seem irrelevant and will stop dominating your thoughts. The craving will turn from a forbidden fruit into a perfectly justifiable occasional treat and the gratification you get from creating a healthy, fit body will far out-weigh the temporary pleasure of indulging in that craving. Food “X” will turn into food “WHY?” and a healthier, happier YOU will be the result.


Author Bio
Nick Randall is a Personal Trainer with PLAY - Fun, Fitness and Performance based on the Sunshine Coast in Australia. I am very passionate about healthy eating, exercise and overall well being and my life revolves around keeping the health of myself and others in the best condition possible. I love writing about these subjects and as a result my work comes straight from the heart and is normally just general thoughts and musings put down onto paper.
Other interests include golf, surfing, reading, chess and watching practiacally all forms of sport on TV!

For more articles, videos, pics and info please check out our website at www.playfitness.com.au

Wednesday, June 2, 2010

Trust In Relationships

By Kim Olver as seen on SelfGrowth.com

We have been taught to believe trust is a commodity to be earned by others. Once they have passed certain tests, then we feel safe to extend our trust. I would like to entertain the idea that trust can be a verb, rather than a noun. It's a choice you make and says much more about you than it does the person to whom you are extending that trust.

When you are involved in a relationship and you say you trust that person, it is more than a noun. It's not just a thing you extend to a person like a gift--it is followed up with behaviors--things you do and things you don't do.

When you trust someone, you know he or she will do the right thing. You know they have their affairs (no pun intended) under control. They are faithful and loyal. You don't need constant reassurance of this--you just know.

What you don't do is constantly grill a person about where he or she is and with whom he or she is spending time. You don't have him or her followed looking for proof of infidelity. You don't snoop around in his or her personal belongings or private places. You trust that he or she can be trusted.

Trusting has so much more to do with who you are as a person than it does with who your partner is. When you are secure in yourself and know that you are worthy to receive love, then it is natural to trust.

The Law of Attraction

The Law of Attraction says that if you look at life and see positive things then you will attract more of that positive energy into your life and vice versa.

If you always find yourself in relationships where you have been disappointed and lied to, ask yourself what it is about you that brings dishonorable people into your life. I'm not in any way blaming you for your misfortune, but I know people attract what they think about.

If you want more trust in your life, you have to be more trusting and more worthy of trust. You can't get from others what you don't possess in yourself. You must ask yourself, "Am I a trustworthy person? Does my partner realize that I have integrity and can be trusted? Do I extend trust to him or her?"

Of course, there will inevitably be someone you trusted who didn't deserve it, but don't allow that to shake the foundation of your self-confidence. It is right to trust the person with whom you are involved. If he or she is undeserving of your trust, in time this will be revealed to you and then you can move on and forgive--whether or not you choose to stay with the person. It does no good to stay if the trust is forever gone.

Beyond Lost Trust

I was recently talking to one of my clients about her readiness to begin a new relationship. This woman, Susan, had been divorced for about five years and believed she was ready for a new dating relationship in her life but nothing was happening for her.I asked her if there was something holding her back. She is an attractive and fun-loving person. I suggested that maybe her ex-husband was still holding too much power over her emotions to allow her to engage in a relationship with someone new.

She thought about that and realized that what really happened is that when her husband had an affair with a much younger woman, it totally shook her self-esteem. If she doesn't like herself, how can someone else be attracted to her?

So often, when our trust is shattered, we tend to look at ourselves. What's wrong with me? Why did someone I love betray me? Why didn't I see it? Instead, we need to look at the character flaw in the other person. When someone makes a promise to another and breaks it, then that is a flaw in them, not you.

Trusting really comes down to which is most important to you--trust or self-protection? If you are more concerned with keeping yourself safe, you probably won't trust because you are afraid of being hurt. However, can you really protect yourself? Won't you still be hurt to learn of a loved one's deception? Without trust, you will never achieve that level of intimacy a trusting relationship provides. What will you really lose by trusting?

The most important thing, though, is to not lose respect for yourself. You are a worthy person. Spend some time engaging in some self-nurturing behavior. Learn to love yourself again. Your self-esteem cannot be based on the frailties of another person.

I have two questions. Do you want to be in a relationship with someone whom you can't trust? And do you want to be in a relationship where you are behaving as a jealous, crazy person?

Trust is Multi-Level

The trust one needs in a relationship is multi-level. At the base level, there is a trust in your partner. Your partner may deserve your trust or he or she may not. You have no control over that at all. If a person is unworthy of your trust, that in no way diminishes you.

At the next level is a trust in oneself. At this level, it is important to trust your own instincts in people. You may not always be right. People are very good at deception if they want to be. However, if you trust in yourself and your good judgment, when you make a mistake you won't be devastated. You just realize that you were involved with a person who was a master of deception and you move on undaunted but perhaps a bit wiser.

Finally, there is trust in the universal order of things--a divine spirit, if you will. If you have total and complete trust in the Universal Spirit or your Higher Power then that trust will never be betrayed. The Universal Spirit will always provide you with what you need whenever you have a need.

Have you lost your trust? Do you want to get it back? Let go of the wrong that was done, trust in yourself again and ultimately trust in the Universal Spirit to provide you what you need when you need it. You will discover a sense of peace and calm that will sustain you through the difficult and lonely times.

Learn more about improving your relationships with our Relationships from the Inside Out Tip Sheet. **

About the Author:
Kim Olver is a life and relationship coach. Her mission is to help people get along better with the important people in their lives, including themselves. She teaches people how to live from the inside out by empowering them to focus on the things they can change. She in an internationally recognized speaker, having worked in Australia, Europe and Africa, as well as all over the United States and Canada. She is the creator of the new, revolutionary process called Inside Out Empowerment based on Dr. William Glasser's Choice Theory. She is a public speaker and provides workshops in the areas of relationships, parenting, and a variety of self-growth topics. She is the author of Leveraging Diversity at Work and the forthcoming book, Secrets of Successful Relationships. She co-authored a book with Ken Blanchard, Les Brown, Mark Victor Hansen and Byron Katie, entitled 101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life. She works with individuals, couples, parents, social service agencies, schools, corporations and the military--anyone who will benefit from gaining more effective control over their lives. She has consulted on relationships, parenting, self-development, training, leadership development, diversity, treatment programs and management styles.

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

Happy Mid Year!

Mid Year check in!!!!

What is one thing that you set out to change or accomplish at the top of the year that you have YET to do?? Is it costing you anything ie: health, money, relationships?

Often times out resolutions fall by the waistside mid before Valentines Day. WHY this happens it not important. What is important is that whenever you choose you can go right back to attending to what you want!

Stay tuned for the Cake EveryDay Coaching calls to help you get back on track! :-)