I LOVE this poem! That's all. :-)
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She who weaves and writes and dances and draws.....Creative Woman I honour you.
She who looks herself in the mirror of her soul....Honest Woman I honour you.
She who looks fear in the face, embravces it and laughs...Brave woman I honour you.
She who stands in the gateway of the worlds and holds the key for those who would explore....Holy Woman I honour you.
She who soothes the salt of tears with the sweat of her brow...Comassionate woman I honour you.
She who sees the pot of gold in the rainbows brialliant arc....Visionary woman I honour you.
She whose hands labour to prepare the fertile ground, to plant, water, weed and gather the fruit....Abundant Woman I honour you.
She who listen and looks and learns....Thinking Woman I honour you.
She who greets the day in all her beauty unclothed....Free Woman I honour you.
She who births and bleeds,nurtures and knows,loves and laughs,dances and dreams,sobs and smiles,stumbles and stands,gives and is grateful,and follows her path through life with a heart,SISTER(Mother)I HONOUR YOU.
Written by Sister Helen...Bless.
Monday, April 4, 2011
Tuesday, March 22, 2011
How Do You Heal?
Great article from HealYourLife.com
Enjoy!
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Tap the Divine Energy within.
Over time, I grew accustomed to the stench of formaldehyde. Stinky five-gallon vats held all kinds of brains—sheep brains, cow brains, human brains—but it was the only laboratory space I was able to wangle from the biology department at San Francisco State University. And so, under these conditions, surrounded by hundreds of brains, I conducted my research into how the mind creates psychosomatic health or disease and how shamans are able to cure illness.
One day, two years into my research, I realized that I had been viewing the mind through the wrong lens. I had been trying to understand a spiritual tradition of indigenous America by looking at changes in brain and blood chemistry. The following week, I resigned my post at the university and shut down my lab. And before the month was over, I had purchased a one-way ticket to the Peruvian Amazon to study the shamans in their own environment.
Everyone I knew, including my own family, thought I was mad to throw away a promising career in academia to follow a harebrained dream of being an explorer and adventurer. I was a city boy who had never set foot in the jungle. But I was sure of one thing: I would not find answers about the mind in a laboratory.
I spent the next quarter of a century traveling and studying with the most renowned sages of the Americas. During that time, I witnessed extraordinary cures—persons whom Western medicine would have long given up on returned to health through ways I could only ascribe to a miracle or spontaneous remission. Over time, I became an apprentice to the shamans and learned their healing practices and methodologies. Yet part of me always felt like an outsider. One old Indian I worked with for many years, a man who eventually became my mentor, explained to me: “That’s because your God is a descending God. He comes down from the heavens on rare occasions to touch those of us here on the Earth; whereas our deity is an ascending divinity who rises from the Earth like the golden corn and resides among us. Our creative force is known as Pachamama, the Divine Mother.”
The sages I studied with worked with the Divine Mother, an energy or intelligence they were capable of interacting with to heal their patients. They believed that we ourselves are this divine energy embodied in matter, much like ribbons of sunlight that wrap themselves around the trunks of trees and then release their light when we place a log into the fire. They claimed they were able to see emanations of this energy around the body of a person in the form of a luminous matrix.
After many years, I also learned to sense this luminous field and to comprehend the shamans’ concept of all life being interconnected through strands of light. In the beginning, my scientific mind had to grasp this notion by explaining to myself that we eat animals that eat grasses that feed on sunlight. I reminded myself that chlorophyll turns light into carbohydrates, such as wheat and other grains, and that we turn carbohydrates back into light inside our cells for fuel. With time, my logical brain relaxed its vise-like grip on my awareness, and I was able to perceive more directly the luminous weave of all creation.
With time, I learned that trauma leaves an almost indelible signature that a healer can perceive in her clients’ luminous field. Healers believe that this marks a person’s experience of health or disease for their entire life, like a cross that each of us has to shoulder. A shaman can help people to lighten their load, perhaps even help them understand the lessons they needed to learn from the original trauma they experienced, but it is up to each person to choose whether they carry their cross lightly, discard it altogether, or become burdened and overwhelmed beneath the weight.
During my years studying with the shamans, I learned about their belief in the Divine Mother, which we each have the potential to discover in nature. This was not the bearded old man whose image I had come to associate with “God.” Rather, this was a force that infused all of creation, a sea of energy and consciousness that we all swim in and are part of. I came to understand this life force that infuses every cell in our bodies, that animates all living beings, and that even fuels stars.
In 2006, on one of my yearly expeditions to the Andes, I met David Perlmutter. I had heard of David and his work over the years and was delighted to hear he was also interested in indigenous healing practices. As we talked, I mentioned the shamans’ notion of how important it is to restore the feminine life force, and his face immediately lit up. “Yes,” he remarked, “it’s the mitochondria.”
On hearing this, I nearly fell off my chair. Here was the link between the ancient shamanic practices and modern neuroscience. I remembered that our mitochondria are inherited only from our mother’s lineage. Here was the source, inside each cell of every living creature, of the feminine life force that sages speak about. I became very excited when he mentioned how these energy factories seemed to be breaking down under the continual barrage of stress in our fast-paced lives and from biochemical toxins, including mercury, pesticides, and water and air pollution.
The more we conversed, the more obvious it became to both of us that there are many elements of ancient healing and spiritual practices that can be described in modern neurological terms. What if we could bring these methodologies together to help our students and patients heal their brain, restore their health, and experience freedom from destructive emotions like anger and fear?
Alberto Villoldo, Ph.D., is a medical anthropologist who comes from a long line of Earthkeepers from the Amazon and the Andes. The author of numerous best-selling books, Dr. Villoldo currently directs The Four Winds Society in Park City, Utah, where he trains people throughout the world in the practice of energy medicine and soul retrieval. Website: www.thefourwinds.com
David Perlmutter is the author of: The Better Brain Book and Raise a Smarter Child By Kindergarten, and is recognized internationally as a leader in the field of nutritional influences in neurological disorders. Website: www.DrPerlmutter.com
Enjoy!
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Tap the Divine Energy within.
Over time, I grew accustomed to the stench of formaldehyde. Stinky five-gallon vats held all kinds of brains—sheep brains, cow brains, human brains—but it was the only laboratory space I was able to wangle from the biology department at San Francisco State University. And so, under these conditions, surrounded by hundreds of brains, I conducted my research into how the mind creates psychosomatic health or disease and how shamans are able to cure illness.
One day, two years into my research, I realized that I had been viewing the mind through the wrong lens. I had been trying to understand a spiritual tradition of indigenous America by looking at changes in brain and blood chemistry. The following week, I resigned my post at the university and shut down my lab. And before the month was over, I had purchased a one-way ticket to the Peruvian Amazon to study the shamans in their own environment.
Everyone I knew, including my own family, thought I was mad to throw away a promising career in academia to follow a harebrained dream of being an explorer and adventurer. I was a city boy who had never set foot in the jungle. But I was sure of one thing: I would not find answers about the mind in a laboratory.
I spent the next quarter of a century traveling and studying with the most renowned sages of the Americas. During that time, I witnessed extraordinary cures—persons whom Western medicine would have long given up on returned to health through ways I could only ascribe to a miracle or spontaneous remission. Over time, I became an apprentice to the shamans and learned their healing practices and methodologies. Yet part of me always felt like an outsider. One old Indian I worked with for many years, a man who eventually became my mentor, explained to me: “That’s because your God is a descending God. He comes down from the heavens on rare occasions to touch those of us here on the Earth; whereas our deity is an ascending divinity who rises from the Earth like the golden corn and resides among us. Our creative force is known as Pachamama, the Divine Mother.”
The sages I studied with worked with the Divine Mother, an energy or intelligence they were capable of interacting with to heal their patients. They believed that we ourselves are this divine energy embodied in matter, much like ribbons of sunlight that wrap themselves around the trunks of trees and then release their light when we place a log into the fire. They claimed they were able to see emanations of this energy around the body of a person in the form of a luminous matrix.
After many years, I also learned to sense this luminous field and to comprehend the shamans’ concept of all life being interconnected through strands of light. In the beginning, my scientific mind had to grasp this notion by explaining to myself that we eat animals that eat grasses that feed on sunlight. I reminded myself that chlorophyll turns light into carbohydrates, such as wheat and other grains, and that we turn carbohydrates back into light inside our cells for fuel. With time, my logical brain relaxed its vise-like grip on my awareness, and I was able to perceive more directly the luminous weave of all creation.
With time, I learned that trauma leaves an almost indelible signature that a healer can perceive in her clients’ luminous field. Healers believe that this marks a person’s experience of health or disease for their entire life, like a cross that each of us has to shoulder. A shaman can help people to lighten their load, perhaps even help them understand the lessons they needed to learn from the original trauma they experienced, but it is up to each person to choose whether they carry their cross lightly, discard it altogether, or become burdened and overwhelmed beneath the weight.
During my years studying with the shamans, I learned about their belief in the Divine Mother, which we each have the potential to discover in nature. This was not the bearded old man whose image I had come to associate with “God.” Rather, this was a force that infused all of creation, a sea of energy and consciousness that we all swim in and are part of. I came to understand this life force that infuses every cell in our bodies, that animates all living beings, and that even fuels stars.
In 2006, on one of my yearly expeditions to the Andes, I met David Perlmutter. I had heard of David and his work over the years and was delighted to hear he was also interested in indigenous healing practices. As we talked, I mentioned the shamans’ notion of how important it is to restore the feminine life force, and his face immediately lit up. “Yes,” he remarked, “it’s the mitochondria.”
On hearing this, I nearly fell off my chair. Here was the link between the ancient shamanic practices and modern neuroscience. I remembered that our mitochondria are inherited only from our mother’s lineage. Here was the source, inside each cell of every living creature, of the feminine life force that sages speak about. I became very excited when he mentioned how these energy factories seemed to be breaking down under the continual barrage of stress in our fast-paced lives and from biochemical toxins, including mercury, pesticides, and water and air pollution.
The more we conversed, the more obvious it became to both of us that there are many elements of ancient healing and spiritual practices that can be described in modern neurological terms. What if we could bring these methodologies together to help our students and patients heal their brain, restore their health, and experience freedom from destructive emotions like anger and fear?
Alberto Villoldo, Ph.D., is a medical anthropologist who comes from a long line of Earthkeepers from the Amazon and the Andes. The author of numerous best-selling books, Dr. Villoldo currently directs The Four Winds Society in Park City, Utah, where he trains people throughout the world in the practice of energy medicine and soul retrieval. Website: www.thefourwinds.com
David Perlmutter is the author of: The Better Brain Book and Raise a Smarter Child By Kindergarten, and is recognized internationally as a leader in the field of nutritional influences in neurological disorders. Website: www.DrPerlmutter.com
Tuesday, March 8, 2011
Love Like A Tree.
I LOVE this and I've decided....i'm a tree! :-)
Love, like a tree,
sends its roots down deep
so when the storms of life abound
and the winds of adversity blow,
it shakes and bends
and goes with the flow
but doesn't break or fall.
And during times of drought
it drives its roots down deeper
so whatever comes and goes—
summer, winter, spring, or fall,
the good times and the bad—
it stands the test of all.
AS seen in the FB group "Love, It's meaning, Capacity of, defined by you." Posted by Opoku Biney.
Love, like a tree,
sends its roots down deep
so when the storms of life abound
and the winds of adversity blow,
it shakes and bends
and goes with the flow
but doesn't break or fall.
And during times of drought
it drives its roots down deeper
so whatever comes and goes—
summer, winter, spring, or fall,
the good times and the bad—
it stands the test of all.
AS seen in the FB group "Love, It's meaning, Capacity of, defined by you." Posted by Opoku Biney.
Friday, February 18, 2011
My Reintro to Meditation, A 21 Day Challenge :-)
Happy Friday!!!
As many of you know I recently completed a 21 Day Meditation Challenge from the Deepok Chopra Center. All I can say is WOW! http://www.chopra.com/meditationchallenge
I have been meditating since 1995, kinda...my way. :-)
The challenge offered 21 days of guided meditations and to say that it was enlightening would be a disservice. The course taught various mantras, breathing techniques, how to meditate using color and chakras and sound. It really opened up my mind to meditation in a whole different way. I enjoyed the "calm" that stayed with me throughout the day and after further research I discovered why. Below I have shared some of the physical benefits associated with meditation as seen on http://www.1stholistic.com/Meditation/hol_meditation.htm:
Physical Benefits
* Deep rest-as measured by decreased metabolic rate, lower heart rate, and reduced work load of the heart.
* Lowered levels of cortisol and lactate-two chemicals associated with stress.
* Reduction of free radicals- unstable oxygen molecules that can cause tissue damage. They are now thought to be a major factor in aging and in many diseases.
* Decreased high blood pressure.
* Higher skin resistance. Low skin resistance is correlated with higher stress and anxiety levels.
* Drop in cholesterol levels. High cholesterol is associated with cardiovascular disease.
* Improved flow of air to the lungs resulting in easier breathing. This has been very helpful to asthma patients.
* Younger biological age. On standard measures of aging, long-term Transcendental Meditation (TM) practitioners (more than five years) measured 12 years younger than their chronological age.
* Higher levels of DHEAS in the elderly. An additional sign of youthfulness through Transcendental Meditation (TM); lower levels of DHEAS are associated with aging.
There you have it! As I shared on my FB page, here are my takeaways from the challenge:
Take aways: 1) when we ask for clarity and receive it, there is no need to attach yourself emotionally to the outcome, it is for our greater good. 2) when you offer your gifts from a place of integrity and authenticity, you are living a purposeful and open life that creates unlimited wealth and abundance. ♥
Namaste,
Raychelle
As many of you know I recently completed a 21 Day Meditation Challenge from the Deepok Chopra Center. All I can say is WOW! http://www.chopra.com/meditationchallenge
I have been meditating since 1995, kinda...my way. :-)
The challenge offered 21 days of guided meditations and to say that it was enlightening would be a disservice. The course taught various mantras, breathing techniques, how to meditate using color and chakras and sound. It really opened up my mind to meditation in a whole different way. I enjoyed the "calm" that stayed with me throughout the day and after further research I discovered why. Below I have shared some of the physical benefits associated with meditation as seen on http://www.1stholistic.com/Meditation/hol_meditation.htm:
Physical Benefits
* Deep rest-as measured by decreased metabolic rate, lower heart rate, and reduced work load of the heart.
* Lowered levels of cortisol and lactate-two chemicals associated with stress.
* Reduction of free radicals- unstable oxygen molecules that can cause tissue damage. They are now thought to be a major factor in aging and in many diseases.
* Decreased high blood pressure.
* Higher skin resistance. Low skin resistance is correlated with higher stress and anxiety levels.
* Drop in cholesterol levels. High cholesterol is associated with cardiovascular disease.
* Improved flow of air to the lungs resulting in easier breathing. This has been very helpful to asthma patients.
* Younger biological age. On standard measures of aging, long-term Transcendental Meditation (TM) practitioners (more than five years) measured 12 years younger than their chronological age.
* Higher levels of DHEAS in the elderly. An additional sign of youthfulness through Transcendental Meditation (TM); lower levels of DHEAS are associated with aging.
There you have it! As I shared on my FB page, here are my takeaways from the challenge:
Take aways: 1) when we ask for clarity and receive it, there is no need to attach yourself emotionally to the outcome, it is for our greater good. 2) when you offer your gifts from a place of integrity and authenticity, you are living a purposeful and open life that creates unlimited wealth and abundance. ♥
Namaste,
Raychelle
Wednesday, February 16, 2011
The 5 Keys to Finding Your Divine Purpose
Wow..I have taken part in alot of conversations about this very topic lately. It is no easy task but I will have to agree with Dante's points. They are right on. Although it can seem difficult at times it is so fulfilling and the journey to purpose is one of the BEST parts. :-)
Enjoy~
Raychelle
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- By Dante Petrilla
Finding your divine purpose is not as difficult as you might imagine. If this is actually true, then why do so few people actually achieve this, and go through the motions of life without purpose or reason, feeling lost, unfulfilled and disconnected? The answer is simple. Most people do not like to think. It's too much like hard work, and most people will run a mile to avoid some serious thought.
I hate to break it to you, but if you want to discover your divine purpose, you will have to engage in some thought! If you're serious about this, you will need to accept the fact that your mind has the capacity to give you all the answers you're seeking.
Here are the keys to discovering your divine purpose:
• Get quiet in meditation and connect to your true essence and ask, "How may I serve?" Understand that you have a part to play in this world, a vital part. You are a hero, a person of exceptional importance. You have a mandate, a mission here on planet Earth. Part of that mission will be in service of your fellow human beings. Every day, before you get out of bed in the morning, ask yourself how you can serve others. Ask over and over -- your mind will give you the answer, even if it does not come immediately.
• Focus on what you love to do. What is that one thing in your life that you absolutely love to do more than anything? That thing that gives you inexplicable passion and zest for life? Think about it. What is that thing for you? It doesn't matter what it is -- it only matters that you love to do it more than anything, that when you do it, you feel alive like you've never felt before. Spend time thinking about this and make sure that you find that special thing in your life. Remember, your mind will give you the answers if you ask it.
• The next key some of you may find a little tougher. Find a way to serve other people with that passion you have deep within you, with that thing you love to do. How can you use your passion to help other people? Like I said, it doesn't matter what you feel passionate about -- it only matters that you do it, and that you find a way to improve the quality of other people's lives by doing it. You have to add value to other people's lives. Use your mind. Spend some time thinking about how you can do this.
• Now it's time for some more thinking! Devise a way to earn a living doing the thing you love, while serving others by doing that thing. As I mentioned in the previous paragraph, your aim is to add value to other people's lives by using your passion. Think about things you can do associated to your passion that will give people what they need or solve a problem that many people have. If you can find a way to give people what they need, you will have no problem turning your purpose into a business that will support you and your family.
• The last key is perhaps a little easier, but it still requires thought! You need to continually check in with your feelings to see if you're on the right track. As you did in the first step, get quiet and go within -- meditate. Think about what you're doing and how you feel about it. Does it make you feel great? Does it make you excited to get up in the morning, like you can't wait to greet the coming day to see what's in store? If you're not feeling this kind of passion about what you're doing, you need to re-think what's actually most important to you.
Your divine purpose is within you. You don't need to go out into the world to find what it is. You will need to do that in order to follow that purpose, but to find it, all you need to do is ask yourself what you love to do and how you can serve others with that talent. Give it a shot. Use your mind and ask yourself for the answers. Your mind will give them to you!
About the Author:
Dante Petrilla has been studying personal development material and success literature for the past decade. He has read all the books, listened to all the CDs and watched all the seminars, and has used many of the techniques he learned to transform his own life, and help improve the quality of the lives of the people he knows and loves. His mission now is to help you to turn your life around.
Please feel free to visit his blog at http://www.yourhealthyeverything and his website http://www.doorwaytohappiness.com.
Enjoy~
Raychelle
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- By Dante Petrilla
Finding your divine purpose is not as difficult as you might imagine. If this is actually true, then why do so few people actually achieve this, and go through the motions of life without purpose or reason, feeling lost, unfulfilled and disconnected? The answer is simple. Most people do not like to think. It's too much like hard work, and most people will run a mile to avoid some serious thought.
I hate to break it to you, but if you want to discover your divine purpose, you will have to engage in some thought! If you're serious about this, you will need to accept the fact that your mind has the capacity to give you all the answers you're seeking.
Here are the keys to discovering your divine purpose:
• Get quiet in meditation and connect to your true essence and ask, "How may I serve?" Understand that you have a part to play in this world, a vital part. You are a hero, a person of exceptional importance. You have a mandate, a mission here on planet Earth. Part of that mission will be in service of your fellow human beings. Every day, before you get out of bed in the morning, ask yourself how you can serve others. Ask over and over -- your mind will give you the answer, even if it does not come immediately.
• Focus on what you love to do. What is that one thing in your life that you absolutely love to do more than anything? That thing that gives you inexplicable passion and zest for life? Think about it. What is that thing for you? It doesn't matter what it is -- it only matters that you love to do it more than anything, that when you do it, you feel alive like you've never felt before. Spend time thinking about this and make sure that you find that special thing in your life. Remember, your mind will give you the answers if you ask it.
• The next key some of you may find a little tougher. Find a way to serve other people with that passion you have deep within you, with that thing you love to do. How can you use your passion to help other people? Like I said, it doesn't matter what you feel passionate about -- it only matters that you do it, and that you find a way to improve the quality of other people's lives by doing it. You have to add value to other people's lives. Use your mind. Spend some time thinking about how you can do this.
• Now it's time for some more thinking! Devise a way to earn a living doing the thing you love, while serving others by doing that thing. As I mentioned in the previous paragraph, your aim is to add value to other people's lives by using your passion. Think about things you can do associated to your passion that will give people what they need or solve a problem that many people have. If you can find a way to give people what they need, you will have no problem turning your purpose into a business that will support you and your family.
• The last key is perhaps a little easier, but it still requires thought! You need to continually check in with your feelings to see if you're on the right track. As you did in the first step, get quiet and go within -- meditate. Think about what you're doing and how you feel about it. Does it make you feel great? Does it make you excited to get up in the morning, like you can't wait to greet the coming day to see what's in store? If you're not feeling this kind of passion about what you're doing, you need to re-think what's actually most important to you.
Your divine purpose is within you. You don't need to go out into the world to find what it is. You will need to do that in order to follow that purpose, but to find it, all you need to do is ask yourself what you love to do and how you can serve others with that talent. Give it a shot. Use your mind and ask yourself for the answers. Your mind will give them to you!
About the Author:
Dante Petrilla has been studying personal development material and success literature for the past decade. He has read all the books, listened to all the CDs and watched all the seminars, and has used many of the techniques he learned to transform his own life, and help improve the quality of the lives of the people he knows and loves. His mission now is to help you to turn your life around.
Please feel free to visit his blog at http://www.yourhealthyeverything and his website http://www.doorwaytohappiness.com.
Monday, January 31, 2011
Cake Everyday.....
Welcome to the Cake Everyday Blog!
My, how time flies. It's been almost a year since the last time I posted about how the name "Cake Everyday Coaching Circle" came about. It all evolved from the blog below...and is still evolving!
Since we have new guests to the blog I felt like this would be a great post to revist. Welcome to my new sprinkles. Enjoy~. :-)
Raychelle
Today I felt like celebrating. It's not my birthday, or the birthday of anyone that I know, I just wanted to celebrate. I thought, "why not?" I have so much to be thankful for and my blessings are more than I can count. I am living my life by design and I continue to accomplish both my personal and professional goals. Doesn't that sound like something to celebrate?
So I have decided to celebrate SOMETHING at least once a day, everyday. Cake everyday for me!!! In theory of course but that's what works for me since cake is one of my favorite things.
The way I see it everyday that I open my eyes, stretch my limbs and thank the creator for one more day, I can celebrate. That's my cake! Exciting right??
Anything after that, like being able to work in a field that I enjoy, with people that I actually like is my icing. And the people that enhance my life: my family and friends that love me, they are my sprinkles. The cherry is me because all of these things help me to feel whole and brings me full circle.
This is not to say that everyday is happy, happy, joy, joy. Life happens and it can sometimes catch us off guard. Ending relationships, saying good bye to loved ones or losing dear friends is never easy. Falling short of our personal objectives and goals can be disheartening. If we don't allow ourselves to become attached to the pain and suffering we will realize these things are circumstances that will pass AND we still have our cake and ourselves! Trust and believe that fresh icing and new sprinkles will come! And when you feel whole and complete again, you can pop that cherry right back on top and marvel at the celebration of YOU…just because.
Thursday, January 27, 2011
Always Remember...
From a dear friend....
Enjoy~
Enjoy~
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ALWAYS REMEMBER:
1] Prayer is not a "spare wheel" that you pull out when in trouble; ...it is a "steering wheel" that directs us in the right path throughout life.
2] Do you know why a car's WINDSHIELD is so large & the rear view mirror is ...so small? Because our PAST is not as important as our FUTURE. So, look ahead and move on.
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3] Friendship is like a BOOK. It takes few seconds to burn, but it takes years to write.
4] All things in life are temporary. If going well enjoy it, they will not last forever. If things are going wrong don't worry, they can't last long either.
5] Old friends are like Gold! New friends are Diamonds! If you get a Diamond, don't forget the Gold! Because to hold a Diamond, you always need a base of Gold!
6] Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, GOD smiles from above and says, "Relax, sweetheart, it's just a bend, not the end!
7] When GOD solves your problems, you have faith in HIS abilities; when GOD doesn't solve your problems HE has faith in your abilities.
8] A blind person asked St. Anthony: "Can there be anything worse than losing eye sight?" He replied: "Yes, losing your vision."
9] When you pray for others, God listens to you and blesses them; and sometimes, when you are safe and happy, remember that someone has prayed for you.
10] WORRYING does not take away tomorrow's TROUBLES; it takes away today’s PEACE.
Wednesday, January 26, 2011
If I Had My Life To Live Over....
Erma Bombeck wrote the following before she passed from cancer. I felt compelled to share this because we are often preoccupied with things that are so insignificant. We are attached to what things look like, we make up stories about people that are just that....made up! We inject our "stuff" into the air that others breath and it is stifling! And of course, a conversation could clear the air but it seems easier to breath the pollution. We talk ourselves into feeling better to go to jobs that we hate and we are not patient with one another. She is right, how much time do we spend trying to figure out why this person doesn't like us, or what did we say to make this person stop talking to us, or what did they mean by that email. It goes on and on.... When I read this it was like a breath of fresh air! And as usual, Erma Bombeck has a point.. it doesn't really matter. Live life!
Cake Everyday, celebrate SOMETHING in your life DAILY! :-)
Enjoy~
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IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER
by Erma Bombeck
I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage. I would have talked less and listened more.
I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded. I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth. I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.
I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, 'Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.'
There would have been more 'I love you's' More 'I'm sorry's.'
But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute. look at it and really see it . . live it and never give it back.
STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF!!!
Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us. If you don't mind, send this on to all the women you are grateful to have as friends. Maybe we should all grab that purple hat earlier.
Cake Everyday, celebrate SOMETHING in your life DAILY! :-)
Enjoy~
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IF I HAD MY LIFE TO LIVE OVER
by Erma Bombeck
I would have gone to bed when I was sick instead of pretending the earth would go into a holding pattern if I weren't there for the day.
I would have burned the pink candle sculpted like a rose before it melted in storage. I would have talked less and listened more.
I would have invited friends over to dinner even if the carpet was stained, or the sofa faded. I would have eaten the popcorn in the 'good' living room and worried much less about the dirt when someone wanted to light a fire in the fireplace.
I would have taken the time to listen to my grandfather ramble about his youth. I would have shared more of the responsibility carried by my husband.
I would never have insisted the car windows be rolled up on a summer day because my hair had just been teased and sprayed.
I would have sat on the lawn with my grass stains.
I would have cried and laughed less while watching television and more while watching life.
I would never have bought anything just because it was practical, wouldn't show soil, or was guaranteed to last a lifetime.
Instead of wishing away nine months of pregnancy, I'd have cherished every moment and realized that the wonderment growing inside me was the only chance in life to assist God in a miracle.
When my kids kissed me impetuously, I would never have said, 'Later. Now go get washed up for dinner.'
There would have been more 'I love you's' More 'I'm sorry's.'
But mostly, given another shot at life, I would seize every minute. look at it and really see it . . live it and never give it back.
STOP SWEATING THE SMALL STUFF!!!
Don't worry about who doesn't like you, who has more, or who's doing what Instead, let's cherish the relationships we have with those who do love us. If you don't mind, send this on to all the women you are grateful to have as friends. Maybe we should all grab that purple hat earlier.
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
The Four Agreements...again. :-)
I recently had a conversation with one of my Besties about the book titled The Four Agreements. I can not get enough of it! It seems that at least 4 times a year I am having conversations about this book and the effects that it has had on my life since reading it. Adopting these principles changed my life.
The Four Agreements is written by Don Miquel Ruiz and I recommend this book to everyone and have given it as gift time and time again. It is an easy ready and you walk away some great tools for life's little tool box. :-) #s 2 and 3 were life altering!
Enjoy~
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1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
To check out the author's page go to: http://www.miguelruiz.com/
Here is a powerful video to go along with it:http://in.youtube.com/watch?v=PX90DZq2OLA
The Four Agreements is written by Don Miquel Ruiz and I recommend this book to everyone and have given it as gift time and time again. It is an easy ready and you walk away some great tools for life's little tool box. :-) #s 2 and 3 were life altering!
Enjoy~
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1. BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. DON'T TAKE ANYTHING PERSONALLY Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
3. DON'T MAKE ASSUMPTIONS Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
4. ALWAYS DO YOUR BEST Your best is going to change from moment to moment. It will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
To check out the author's page go to: http://www.miguelruiz.com/
Here is a powerful video to go along with it:http://in.youtube.com/watch?v=PX90DZq2OLA
Monday, January 24, 2011
Getting Unstuck by Kelly Green
GETTING UNSTUCK
(AND, FINDING YOUR SWEET SPOT IN THE PROCESS!)
In 2005 I was laid off from my job, a career that I had been in for 15 years. Not only was I mad, I was hurt, confused and terrified. I had no idea what my next move would be. To make matters worse, the physical limitations of Multiple Sclerosis (which I had been diagnosed with in 1992) had begun to really take its’ toll. Let me start from the beginning:
At 22-years-old, I was told that I had Multiple Sclerosis (MS), an auto-immune disease that affects the central nervous system. It affects different people in different ways. Some people immediately go to being disabled while others will live their whole life without any major physical or cognitive limitations. That was a gift and a curse for me. A curse because I had no idea what it meant to have MS and did little to educate myself about the disease process. The gift? Again, I had no idea what it meant to have MS so I continued with my plans to move to New York and work in the music business. That turned out to be one of the most exciting experiences of my life. I got to travel all around the world, meet lots of people and make very good money. During this time, I had very few visible signs of MS so I did what I could to hide it. However, once a year, almost like clockwork, I would have a relapse. For me that meant I was confined to the bed and/ or hospital unable to walk for several weeks. This was the only time that anyone outside of close friends was made aware of my condition. After the relapse I would go back to living my life as though everything with my health was o.k. What can I say? I was young, that’s what I wanted to believe. And I was able to live out my dreams with that belief.
Unfortunately, the curse began to rear its’ ugly head as years passed and the disease progressed. I was lulled into a false sense of security. For almost 12 years, I moved around the music business working for 4 different companies from start-ups to Fortune 500, advancing from intern to Senior Director of Marketing, winning awards and selling millions of records. I wanted to ignore the MS, so I did – until I couldn’t. Physically it was becoming more and more difficult to keep up with the fast-pace of the entertainment industry – a business where most of the work takes place long after 5pm. Mentally, it was becoming harder to focus and concentrate and because I tried to “hide” the disease, my cognitive issues were seen by others as apathy towards my job. (Not a good look in any industry!)
By the time I decided to become more educated about the disease and research alternative forms of therapy, the fate of my music career had already been decided – I was laid off in July 2005. I got other job offers within the music industry, but deep down I knew that I had to take time for me and take control of my health. This was an extremely difficult decision for me. What would I do now? How could I continue to support myself not making the money that I had become so accustomed to? Would I become totally disabled?
It was at this time that I was introduced to a holistic nutritionist. After spending some time with her and seeing first hand how I was being “coached” through this time of uncertainty, I knew I had found my “sweet spot”! I moved to Atlanta to escape the rat race of New York and enrolled in a Wellness Coaching certification course. I had made the decision to coach people with chronic illnesses to lead healthier, more productive lifestyles. As my coaching practice evolved, I realized the biggest obstacle facing my clients wasn’t wanting to live healthier lifestyles, but learning how to become unstuck from that place that had kept them in a holding pattern for so long. In order to make any lifestyle change, it’s important to first understand what is holding us back from taking that first step towards finding our sweet spot!
That’s when I created The Personal Brand Blueprint, a step-by-step guide to defining and developing a strong Personal Brand that attracts the life you want to live. I thought back to my career and how I was able to successfully accomplish all that I had while having such an unpredictable disease as MS; it was having a strong Personal Brand. And when I lost sight of that, I let my fear of the unknown take over and keep me paralyzed.
How I got unstuck & How You Can Too
Acknowledge Your Feelings – Being laid off, having a disease, not knowing what the heck I was going to do, were all a source of embarrassment, frustration and disappointment for me (just to name a few). After some time (read: a long time!), I decided the best way for me to face those emotions was to first acknowledge that they exist. Just by my conversations with others, I realized that I was not alone. And more importantly, I could move on from this!
Clear the clutter – In order to clear your head, you must clear your space, literally and figuratively. Clean your house, clean your office, even clean your car! Get rid of the outside noise; the negative people in your life as well as the negative self- talk. Delegate specific times for watching TV, answering email, “browsing” social media sites – anything that’s not benefiting your BIG picture plan, clear it out! Having a clean space will allow you to think and act more clearly.
What’s the worst that could happen – Get rid of the expectations; expectations you put on yourself and those you think others have of you. Ask yourself, what is it costing me to stay where I am? If you decide today to step out on a ledge and it doesn’t go as planned, what’s the worst that could happen? I would bet the benefits, in the long run, would outweigh the risks. Think about it!
Reframe your thoughts – What’s your biggest fear for moving forward? How can you change that negative thought into a positive affirmation? Remember, what you think you become. The more you put those negative thoughts out into the universe, then guess what? You attract more negativity! Be conscious of your thinking.
Start where you are – You will constantly be chasing the next thing – this is called “the shiny ball syndrome” – where everything that looks shiny, new and attractive, is more fulfilling than what you already have. But I’m telling you that by doing so, that next thing will never be enough. Start where you are, accept what is and make a conscious decision to move forward. “If we wait for everything, absolutely everything is ready, we will never begin” – Ivan Turgenev
This brings me to my final point:
Make a conscious decision to move forward – Take this time to stop and do some soul-searching. Decide what you want for yourself and move toward that. What’s your BIG picture vision?!
If you’re feeling stuck I challenge you to do the above exercises and do them with intention. Commit to getting unstuck and moving forward – it’s the key to finding your “Sweet Spot” in life!
AUTHOR BIO: Kelly Green, CWC, empowers those in transition to find their sweet spot by defining, developing and delivering a powerful Personal Brand. Her company, http://ThePersonalBrandBlueprint.com , is a step-by-step coaching process that re-energizes, re-charges and re-claims your inner-entrepreneur. If you’re ready to create the blueprint to your success, become the person you want to be, and live the life you were meant to live, contact Coach Kelly: kelly@thepersonalbrandblueprint.com for your FREE strategy session!
(AND, FINDING YOUR SWEET SPOT IN THE PROCESS!)
In 2005 I was laid off from my job, a career that I had been in for 15 years. Not only was I mad, I was hurt, confused and terrified. I had no idea what my next move would be. To make matters worse, the physical limitations of Multiple Sclerosis (which I had been diagnosed with in 1992) had begun to really take its’ toll. Let me start from the beginning:
At 22-years-old, I was told that I had Multiple Sclerosis (MS), an auto-immune disease that affects the central nervous system. It affects different people in different ways. Some people immediately go to being disabled while others will live their whole life without any major physical or cognitive limitations. That was a gift and a curse for me. A curse because I had no idea what it meant to have MS and did little to educate myself about the disease process. The gift? Again, I had no idea what it meant to have MS so I continued with my plans to move to New York and work in the music business. That turned out to be one of the most exciting experiences of my life. I got to travel all around the world, meet lots of people and make very good money. During this time, I had very few visible signs of MS so I did what I could to hide it. However, once a year, almost like clockwork, I would have a relapse. For me that meant I was confined to the bed and/ or hospital unable to walk for several weeks. This was the only time that anyone outside of close friends was made aware of my condition. After the relapse I would go back to living my life as though everything with my health was o.k. What can I say? I was young, that’s what I wanted to believe. And I was able to live out my dreams with that belief.
Unfortunately, the curse began to rear its’ ugly head as years passed and the disease progressed. I was lulled into a false sense of security. For almost 12 years, I moved around the music business working for 4 different companies from start-ups to Fortune 500, advancing from intern to Senior Director of Marketing, winning awards and selling millions of records. I wanted to ignore the MS, so I did – until I couldn’t. Physically it was becoming more and more difficult to keep up with the fast-pace of the entertainment industry – a business where most of the work takes place long after 5pm. Mentally, it was becoming harder to focus and concentrate and because I tried to “hide” the disease, my cognitive issues were seen by others as apathy towards my job. (Not a good look in any industry!)
By the time I decided to become more educated about the disease and research alternative forms of therapy, the fate of my music career had already been decided – I was laid off in July 2005. I got other job offers within the music industry, but deep down I knew that I had to take time for me and take control of my health. This was an extremely difficult decision for me. What would I do now? How could I continue to support myself not making the money that I had become so accustomed to? Would I become totally disabled?
It was at this time that I was introduced to a holistic nutritionist. After spending some time with her and seeing first hand how I was being “coached” through this time of uncertainty, I knew I had found my “sweet spot”! I moved to Atlanta to escape the rat race of New York and enrolled in a Wellness Coaching certification course. I had made the decision to coach people with chronic illnesses to lead healthier, more productive lifestyles. As my coaching practice evolved, I realized the biggest obstacle facing my clients wasn’t wanting to live healthier lifestyles, but learning how to become unstuck from that place that had kept them in a holding pattern for so long. In order to make any lifestyle change, it’s important to first understand what is holding us back from taking that first step towards finding our sweet spot!
That’s when I created The Personal Brand Blueprint, a step-by-step guide to defining and developing a strong Personal Brand that attracts the life you want to live. I thought back to my career and how I was able to successfully accomplish all that I had while having such an unpredictable disease as MS; it was having a strong Personal Brand. And when I lost sight of that, I let my fear of the unknown take over and keep me paralyzed.
How I got unstuck & How You Can Too
Acknowledge Your Feelings – Being laid off, having a disease, not knowing what the heck I was going to do, were all a source of embarrassment, frustration and disappointment for me (just to name a few). After some time (read: a long time!), I decided the best way for me to face those emotions was to first acknowledge that they exist. Just by my conversations with others, I realized that I was not alone. And more importantly, I could move on from this!
Clear the clutter – In order to clear your head, you must clear your space, literally and figuratively. Clean your house, clean your office, even clean your car! Get rid of the outside noise; the negative people in your life as well as the negative self- talk. Delegate specific times for watching TV, answering email, “browsing” social media sites – anything that’s not benefiting your BIG picture plan, clear it out! Having a clean space will allow you to think and act more clearly.
What’s the worst that could happen – Get rid of the expectations; expectations you put on yourself and those you think others have of you. Ask yourself, what is it costing me to stay where I am? If you decide today to step out on a ledge and it doesn’t go as planned, what’s the worst that could happen? I would bet the benefits, in the long run, would outweigh the risks. Think about it!
Reframe your thoughts – What’s your biggest fear for moving forward? How can you change that negative thought into a positive affirmation? Remember, what you think you become. The more you put those negative thoughts out into the universe, then guess what? You attract more negativity! Be conscious of your thinking.
Start where you are – You will constantly be chasing the next thing – this is called “the shiny ball syndrome” – where everything that looks shiny, new and attractive, is more fulfilling than what you already have. But I’m telling you that by doing so, that next thing will never be enough. Start where you are, accept what is and make a conscious decision to move forward. “If we wait for everything, absolutely everything is ready, we will never begin” – Ivan Turgenev
This brings me to my final point:
Make a conscious decision to move forward – Take this time to stop and do some soul-searching. Decide what you want for yourself and move toward that. What’s your BIG picture vision?!
If you’re feeling stuck I challenge you to do the above exercises and do them with intention. Commit to getting unstuck and moving forward – it’s the key to finding your “Sweet Spot” in life!
AUTHOR BIO: Kelly Green, CWC, empowers those in transition to find their sweet spot by defining, developing and delivering a powerful Personal Brand. Her company, http://ThePersonalBrandBlueprint.com , is a step-by-step coaching process that re-energizes, re-charges and re-claims your inner-entrepreneur. If you’re ready to create the blueprint to your success, become the person you want to be, and live the life you were meant to live, contact Coach Kelly: kelly@thepersonalbrandblueprint.com for your FREE strategy session!
Friday, January 21, 2011
My YOU Cube in the New Year..another year!
My goodness, where does the time go? I was digging through my old blog posts and ran across this post from last year. As I read it I was struck by the fact that is it still so relevant and decided to share it. Hope you enjoy!
Raychelle
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Can you already believe that it is the middle of January?
I am so excited. Just because.
There is something to be said for new beginnings. The best part is that NEW beginnings can happen when ever we want, not just yearly or quarterly. While moving through life it's real easy to fall it the same old physical and mental patterns. We get stuck and before you know it, other's are defining who you are and what you need to be.
Just because others keep us in a box doesn't mean that we have to stay there. We are often times the worst offenders! No one limits us more than we do. Free yourself and bust out of the YOU Cube! It's a beautiful thing. It's so liberating and it works.
Now....beware, the folks that keep you in that cube will be thrown for a loop but it's all good. Your best buds move and grow with you so don't fret. Once the dust clears the folks that are supposed to be there will still be there.
So I have committed to make ME a project. Each day I am going to examine something that is in my YOU Cube that needs to be removed! My commitment to starting fresh every day. My objective is not to carry over any grudges, hard feelings, negative thoughts etc. into the next day. All fresh and new..lol. I'm working through some things! :-)
I have chosen to share this so that the people closest to me can keep me honest and make me accountable. This will be a real challenge for me but I am looking forward to the growth.
Wish me luck!!!
SheNotes
Raychelle
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Can you already believe that it is the middle of January?
I am so excited. Just because.
There is something to be said for new beginnings. The best part is that NEW beginnings can happen when ever we want, not just yearly or quarterly. While moving through life it's real easy to fall it the same old physical and mental patterns. We get stuck and before you know it, other's are defining who you are and what you need to be.
Just because others keep us in a box doesn't mean that we have to stay there. We are often times the worst offenders! No one limits us more than we do. Free yourself and bust out of the YOU Cube! It's a beautiful thing. It's so liberating and it works.
Now....beware, the folks that keep you in that cube will be thrown for a loop but it's all good. Your best buds move and grow with you so don't fret. Once the dust clears the folks that are supposed to be there will still be there.
So I have committed to make ME a project. Each day I am going to examine something that is in my YOU Cube that needs to be removed! My commitment to starting fresh every day. My objective is not to carry over any grudges, hard feelings, negative thoughts etc. into the next day. All fresh and new..lol. I'm working through some things! :-)
I have chosen to share this so that the people closest to me can keep me honest and make me accountable. This will be a real challenge for me but I am looking forward to the growth.
Wish me luck!!!
SheNotes
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
10 Words To Delete From Your Vocabulary
What better time to revisit then at the top of the year when we are startin a new :-) This is an oldie but goodie, still very relevant.
Enjoy~
Raychelle
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By Barbara J. Henry
Words are powerful because they shape our thoughts, determine our actions, and chart the course of our lives. This is true whether the words are positive, giving hope and encouragement, or negative utterances that steal our joy and confidence.
Wherever we are in our lives, personal relationships, or careers, the words we have used consistently are partly responsible.
This fact should prompt us to become more aware of our words, and when needed, to change them so that we can begin to get the results we really desire.
Recently, during a particularly challenging period, I discovered that I was using some of the following words far too often to get the favorable results I sought.
1. Can't The use of this word is primarily responsible for countless hopes and dreams lying dormant on the "drawing boards" of our lives. Completely eliminate your use of this word and you will see a significant positive change in your life.
2. But When used as a conjunction, "but" negates whatever statement that precedes it." I want to study law, but it will take a lot of hard work." Your mind does not focus on your desire to become a lawyer or judge; it only sees the hard work you will need to perform. Replace "but" with "and."
3. Should Any statement that uses the word "should" generally elicits guilt. "I should go to the gym," makes you feel guilty for not going. Replace this word with "choose," as in, "I choose to go to the gym, or I choose not to go to the gym today."
4. Maybe This word indicates indecision, doubt, or uncertainty as to a course of action. For example, "Maybe I'd better wait to..."
For those of us interested in personal development, "maybe" should be used very sparingly. Use "I will" or "I will not" instead of maybe. The mere sound of the more positive words emits feelings of confidence and resolve which are so important to our personal well-being.
5. Soon or Later Both are indefinite references to time. They are also non-committal. They should be replaced with a definite time and date. When someone tells you he or she is going to do something "soon" or "later," there is no way to determine when whatever it is will get done. Imagine what could happen to deadlines and your integrity when these words are used frequently.
6. Someday Someday, like soon or later, is much too indefinite, and when it is used, it shows the same lack of commitment. Replace "someday" with a specific date and time.
7. Never This word is absolute, and there are only limited situations when "never" is absolutely true. The use of this word, in my opinion, suggests a closed mind, which seriously hinders our self-growth efforts. The word "never" should be replaced with a non-absolute term.
8. Won't The word "won't" implies an unwillingness, reluctance, or closed mindedness, and like the absolute term "never," it is quite harmful because it closes the door on many of the actions we need to take to reach our goals.
9. If This is a small word that carries large doubts and uncertainties, and when used often, it gnaws away at our confidence and intended actions, two qualities necessary for any type of success.
10. Try or (I'll Try) I don't know about you, but each time someone has said these words to me, or the few times that I have used them in conversations with others, whatever the subject of "I'll try" was, rarely, if ever, got done. Replace "I'll try" with "I will."
These words must be given serious thought before we use them in our "self talk" or in the conversations we have with others.
We must remember this: Our words affect our thoughts, our actions, our very lives, and because of their power, we must choose them with the utmost care.
An article fromSelf Growth.com http://www.selfgrowth.com/
Enjoy~
Raychelle
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By Barbara J. Henry
Words are powerful because they shape our thoughts, determine our actions, and chart the course of our lives. This is true whether the words are positive, giving hope and encouragement, or negative utterances that steal our joy and confidence.
Wherever we are in our lives, personal relationships, or careers, the words we have used consistently are partly responsible.
This fact should prompt us to become more aware of our words, and when needed, to change them so that we can begin to get the results we really desire.
Recently, during a particularly challenging period, I discovered that I was using some of the following words far too often to get the favorable results I sought.
1. Can't The use of this word is primarily responsible for countless hopes and dreams lying dormant on the "drawing boards" of our lives. Completely eliminate your use of this word and you will see a significant positive change in your life.
2. But When used as a conjunction, "but" negates whatever statement that precedes it." I want to study law, but it will take a lot of hard work." Your mind does not focus on your desire to become a lawyer or judge; it only sees the hard work you will need to perform. Replace "but" with "and."
3. Should Any statement that uses the word "should" generally elicits guilt. "I should go to the gym," makes you feel guilty for not going. Replace this word with "choose," as in, "I choose to go to the gym, or I choose not to go to the gym today."
4. Maybe This word indicates indecision, doubt, or uncertainty as to a course of action. For example, "Maybe I'd better wait to..."
For those of us interested in personal development, "maybe" should be used very sparingly. Use "I will" or "I will not" instead of maybe. The mere sound of the more positive words emits feelings of confidence and resolve which are so important to our personal well-being.
5. Soon or Later Both are indefinite references to time. They are also non-committal. They should be replaced with a definite time and date. When someone tells you he or she is going to do something "soon" or "later," there is no way to determine when whatever it is will get done. Imagine what could happen to deadlines and your integrity when these words are used frequently.
6. Someday Someday, like soon or later, is much too indefinite, and when it is used, it shows the same lack of commitment. Replace "someday" with a specific date and time.
7. Never This word is absolute, and there are only limited situations when "never" is absolutely true. The use of this word, in my opinion, suggests a closed mind, which seriously hinders our self-growth efforts. The word "never" should be replaced with a non-absolute term.
8. Won't The word "won't" implies an unwillingness, reluctance, or closed mindedness, and like the absolute term "never," it is quite harmful because it closes the door on many of the actions we need to take to reach our goals.
9. If This is a small word that carries large doubts and uncertainties, and when used often, it gnaws away at our confidence and intended actions, two qualities necessary for any type of success.
10. Try or (I'll Try) I don't know about you, but each time someone has said these words to me, or the few times that I have used them in conversations with others, whatever the subject of "I'll try" was, rarely, if ever, got done. Replace "I'll try" with "I will."
These words must be given serious thought before we use them in our "self talk" or in the conversations we have with others.
We must remember this: Our words affect our thoughts, our actions, our very lives, and because of their power, we must choose them with the utmost care.
An article fromSelf Growth.com http://www.selfgrowth.com/
Wednesday, January 12, 2011
Letting Go and Moving Forward
I ran across this article this morning and thought it was so on point. In particularly for this time of year when we are all swearing off people and things that we KNOW are holding us back and are just not good for us. Letting go can be very difficult at times but what do you have to lose? It's like holding on to the bumper, let it go! Then of course, dust yourself off and get out of the street! :-)
This is much easier said than done. I think this article makes some great points about where to start.
Enjoy~
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Let's face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happening we need to let go...but no one really tells you how to let go and move forward. Sure it's easy to say: "Just let go, move forward, forget about it, just let go." But that really doesn't work. I'm about to show you how to let go and start moving forward.
Why You Need to Let Go and Move Forward
Throughout our lives we go through different experiences, some are positive and some we see as negative and unpleasant. When you hang on to a negative or unpleasant experience you are constantly thinking about it. And when you constantly think about that negative event you prevent yourself from healing. How many pleasant memories do you recall every day? Chances are you're like most people and you have a number of unpleasant experiences that you're holding on to, which is preventing you from moving forward.
The more you carry the worse life gets. Why? Because you've filled your mind up with negative experiences, because you continually hang on to something that doesn't allow you to move forward, in short, you're carrying useless baggage that's really slowing you down.
Think of it this way: you're on a hiking trip and along the way you keep picking up heavy objects, things that really don't serve you. After a while, these objects begin to slow you down and unless you get rid of them, you'll never complete your trip.
To let go you have to get your mind to focus on different goals and different objectives. It's not about saying: I let go of the pain from my fight with -- and move on. That will help, but if you really want to start moving on, then you have to get your mind to focus on new things, in the process you automatically let go of the things that have been slowing you down.
How to Let Go and Move Forward
Researchers believe that that if you hold on to negative feelings, sad emotions or depressing memories there is a possibility that you could reshape the human cell to the point where your thoughts of the past have a negative effect on your cells and your physical health.
Hanging on to negative past events is a process that can destroy your life in ways you're not even aware of. Ask yourself these questions: Do the negative things you hang on to serve you any purpose? Do they help you move forward? Do they work in your favor in any way? If you said no to any or all of the above then tell yourself this: This emotion/feeling doesn't help me so I'm letting it go and focusing on what is important. Then begin focusing on what you want next, focus on what is important and what can improve your life. This is a simple process that gets the mind moving in a new direction and you stop building negative energy created from the negative events/emotions, which only attracts more negative situations.
When you begin focusing on more positive things you begin attracting positive situations. The next step is to create an action plan; the past is over. Where do you want to go now and how do you plan to get there? You may not have the answers but merely thinking about the options forces your mind to go in a new direction and you automatically let go of unwanted feelings and emotions.
The key to your success is to train your mind to move in a new direction so you send new messages to your subconscious mind, which then brings you the opportunities to move forward.
The final step is to live in the present moment, to start living in the now. Living in the now is different than living for the moment. Living in the now is the process of enjoying everything that is going on at this present moment. Take a look around you and appreciate those things that you once thought were trivial. When you are here now you can be nowhere else. You are not hanging on to something, you are here now. I know some of you may say the following: "But Karim, where I am right now really sucks, I don't want to think about it." It only sucks because you're looking at all the negative things going on. Focus on a few of the positive things anything from nature to the wonderful family you may have. This forces your mind to look at things differently and tells your subconscious mind that you're ready for new possibilities, then you'll begin to let go and move forward.
About the Author:
Karim Hajee is the author and creator of the Creating Power system - which teaches you how to direct the power of your mind and subconscious mind so that you achieve your goals and live the life you want. To learn more visit: http://www.creatingpower.com/
This is much easier said than done. I think this article makes some great points about where to start.
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Let's face it. Many of us choose to hang on to things that at some point have hurt us, angered us, made us feel sad, or depressed us. If we choose to hang on to them, we will never move forward and we could even create physical or medical damage to our bodies. To prevent this from happening we need to let go...but no one really tells you how to let go and move forward. Sure it's easy to say: "Just let go, move forward, forget about it, just let go." But that really doesn't work. I'm about to show you how to let go and start moving forward.
Why You Need to Let Go and Move Forward
Throughout our lives we go through different experiences, some are positive and some we see as negative and unpleasant. When you hang on to a negative or unpleasant experience you are constantly thinking about it. And when you constantly think about that negative event you prevent yourself from healing. How many pleasant memories do you recall every day? Chances are you're like most people and you have a number of unpleasant experiences that you're holding on to, which is preventing you from moving forward.
The more you carry the worse life gets. Why? Because you've filled your mind up with negative experiences, because you continually hang on to something that doesn't allow you to move forward, in short, you're carrying useless baggage that's really slowing you down.
Think of it this way: you're on a hiking trip and along the way you keep picking up heavy objects, things that really don't serve you. After a while, these objects begin to slow you down and unless you get rid of them, you'll never complete your trip.
To let go you have to get your mind to focus on different goals and different objectives. It's not about saying: I let go of the pain from my fight with -- and move on. That will help, but if you really want to start moving on, then you have to get your mind to focus on new things, in the process you automatically let go of the things that have been slowing you down.
How to Let Go and Move Forward
Researchers believe that that if you hold on to negative feelings, sad emotions or depressing memories there is a possibility that you could reshape the human cell to the point where your thoughts of the past have a negative effect on your cells and your physical health.
Hanging on to negative past events is a process that can destroy your life in ways you're not even aware of. Ask yourself these questions: Do the negative things you hang on to serve you any purpose? Do they help you move forward? Do they work in your favor in any way? If you said no to any or all of the above then tell yourself this: This emotion/feeling doesn't help me so I'm letting it go and focusing on what is important. Then begin focusing on what you want next, focus on what is important and what can improve your life. This is a simple process that gets the mind moving in a new direction and you stop building negative energy created from the negative events/emotions, which only attracts more negative situations.
When you begin focusing on more positive things you begin attracting positive situations. The next step is to create an action plan; the past is over. Where do you want to go now and how do you plan to get there? You may not have the answers but merely thinking about the options forces your mind to go in a new direction and you automatically let go of unwanted feelings and emotions.
The key to your success is to train your mind to move in a new direction so you send new messages to your subconscious mind, which then brings you the opportunities to move forward.
The final step is to live in the present moment, to start living in the now. Living in the now is different than living for the moment. Living in the now is the process of enjoying everything that is going on at this present moment. Take a look around you and appreciate those things that you once thought were trivial. When you are here now you can be nowhere else. You are not hanging on to something, you are here now. I know some of you may say the following: "But Karim, where I am right now really sucks, I don't want to think about it." It only sucks because you're looking at all the negative things going on. Focus on a few of the positive things anything from nature to the wonderful family you may have. This forces your mind to look at things differently and tells your subconscious mind that you're ready for new possibilities, then you'll begin to let go and move forward.
About the Author:
Karim Hajee is the author and creator of the Creating Power system - which teaches you how to direct the power of your mind and subconscious mind so that you achieve your goals and live the life you want. To learn more visit: http://www.creatingpower.com/
Monday, January 3, 2011
Find Peace in Forgiveness
Let's start 2011 off empowered!
Raychelle
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Give up the right to resent.
By Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Raychelle
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Give up the right to resent.
By Dr. Wayne W. Dyer
Sweep your heart clean by forgiving.
You hear people say this all the time: “I have a right to be upset because of the way I’ve been treated. I have a right to be angry, hurt, depressed, sad, and resentful.” Learning to avoid this kind of thinking is one of my secrets for living a life of inner peace, success, and happiness. Anytime you’re filled with resentment, you’re turning the controls of your emotional life over to others to manipulate.
I became aware of how powerful this lesson was many years ago while sitting in on a meeting of 12 people who were in a recovery group for alcoholism and drug addiction. All 12 of those people were accustomed to blaming others for their weaknesses, using almost any excuse as a rationale for returning to their self-defeating ways. On a poster hanging in the room were these words: “In this group, there are no justified resentments.”
Regardless of what anyone would say to another group member, no matter how confrontational or ugly the accusations, each person was reminded that there are no justified resentments. You may need to consider whom you resent before you make your own choice about whether this is useful for you. Resentments give you an excuse to return to your old ways. This is what got you there in the first place!
Removing resentment and blame from your life means never assigning responsibility to anyone for what you’re experiencing. It means that you’re willing to say, “I may not understand why I feel this way, why I have this illness, why I’ve been victimized, or why I had this accident, but I’m willing to say without any guilt or resentment that I own it. I live with, and I am responsible for, having it in my life.” Why do this? If you take responsibility for having it, then at least you have a chance to also take responsibility for removing it or learning from it.
If you’re in some small (perhaps unknown) way responsible for that migraine headache or that depressed feeling, then you can go to work to remove it or discover what its message is for you. If, on the other hand, someone or something else is responsible in your mind, then of course you’ll have to wait until they change for you to get better. And that is unlikely to occur.
First, you have to get past blame. Then you have to learn to send love to all, rather than anger and resentment. Just as no one can define you, neither do you have the privilege of defining others. When you stop judging and simply become an observer, you will know inner peace. With that sense of inner peace, you’ll find yourself free of the negative energy of resentment, and you’ll be able to live a life of contentment. A bonus is that you’ll find that others are much more attracted to you. A peaceful person attracts peaceful energy. You won’t know God unless you’re at peace, because God is peace. Your resentments literally send God out of your life while you’re busy being offended.
At the root of virtually all spiritual practice is the notion of forgiveness. Think about every single person who has ever harmed you, cheated you, defrauded you, or said unkind things about you. Your experience of them is nothing more that a thought that you carry around with you. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will disempower you. If you could release them, you would know more peace.
You practice forgiveness for two reasons: to let others know that you no longer wish to be in a state of hostility with them and to free yourself from the self-defeating energy of resentment. Send love in some form to those you feel have wronged you and notice how much better you feel.
Excerpted from Excuses Begone! by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer. Copyright © 2009 (Hay House).
You hear people say this all the time: “I have a right to be upset because of the way I’ve been treated. I have a right to be angry, hurt, depressed, sad, and resentful.” Learning to avoid this kind of thinking is one of my secrets for living a life of inner peace, success, and happiness. Anytime you’re filled with resentment, you’re turning the controls of your emotional life over to others to manipulate.
I became aware of how powerful this lesson was many years ago while sitting in on a meeting of 12 people who were in a recovery group for alcoholism and drug addiction. All 12 of those people were accustomed to blaming others for their weaknesses, using almost any excuse as a rationale for returning to their self-defeating ways. On a poster hanging in the room were these words: “In this group, there are no justified resentments.”
Regardless of what anyone would say to another group member, no matter how confrontational or ugly the accusations, each person was reminded that there are no justified resentments. You may need to consider whom you resent before you make your own choice about whether this is useful for you. Resentments give you an excuse to return to your old ways. This is what got you there in the first place!
Removing resentment and blame from your life means never assigning responsibility to anyone for what you’re experiencing. It means that you’re willing to say, “I may not understand why I feel this way, why I have this illness, why I’ve been victimized, or why I had this accident, but I’m willing to say without any guilt or resentment that I own it. I live with, and I am responsible for, having it in my life.” Why do this? If you take responsibility for having it, then at least you have a chance to also take responsibility for removing it or learning from it.
If you’re in some small (perhaps unknown) way responsible for that migraine headache or that depressed feeling, then you can go to work to remove it or discover what its message is for you. If, on the other hand, someone or something else is responsible in your mind, then of course you’ll have to wait until they change for you to get better. And that is unlikely to occur.
First, you have to get past blame. Then you have to learn to send love to all, rather than anger and resentment. Just as no one can define you, neither do you have the privilege of defining others. When you stop judging and simply become an observer, you will know inner peace. With that sense of inner peace, you’ll find yourself free of the negative energy of resentment, and you’ll be able to live a life of contentment. A bonus is that you’ll find that others are much more attracted to you. A peaceful person attracts peaceful energy. You won’t know God unless you’re at peace, because God is peace. Your resentments literally send God out of your life while you’re busy being offended.
At the root of virtually all spiritual practice is the notion of forgiveness. Think about every single person who has ever harmed you, cheated you, defrauded you, or said unkind things about you. Your experience of them is nothing more that a thought that you carry around with you. These thoughts of resentment, anger, and hatred represent slow, debilitating energies that will disempower you. If you could release them, you would know more peace.
You practice forgiveness for two reasons: to let others know that you no longer wish to be in a state of hostility with them and to free yourself from the self-defeating energy of resentment. Send love in some form to those you feel have wronged you and notice how much better you feel.
Excerpted from Excuses Begone! by Dr. Wayne W. Dyer. Copyright © 2009 (Hay House).
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